It really runs down to what you do and play with it.
The 9800X3D is a gaming champ not a multi tasker, the 7900X and 7950X will hit harder due to bigger core count and frequency. If you start doing lots of things where multi core is a factor, the 13700 could get an edge.
If you mean pure gaming, there is no way a 13700 would get close, even at 4K it will still have a significant gap.
Or you could have a bad config going on or bad CPU.
If so, you should bring more details so we can help troubleshooting.
Good luck
The Englishman